If your friend is ill

#1 Don't make a person into a project.
#2 Don't make them feel guilty about things that they cannot do.
#3 Remember important anniversaries, good & bad. No one else will.
#4 Respect their prayer requests.
#5 Recognize that medications can make one irrational at times.
#6 Never question if your friend is exaggerating their pain level.
#7 Don't visit if you think you are getting sick. Call instead.
#8 Remember illness is not just a matter of attitude.
#9 When they say they're TIRED, they're WIPED OUT.
#10 Roses won't impress them, a dandelion each month will.
#11 Remember, pain makes people more grouchy than they ever wanted to be.
#12 Make plans in advance but understand they may have to cancel.
#13 Don't ask too many questions. Friends don't want to be science projects.
#14 Don't talk with their caregiver as if your friend isn't there.
#15 Understand how hard it is to accept help.
#16 Don't assume because they live with relatives, needs are taken care of.
#17 Don't abandon friendship because there are awkward moments.
#18 Time is more important to them than any amount of money you will spend.
#19 Don't interrupt.
#20 What they could do yesterday may not be possible today.
#21 Consider yourself a friend for their journey, not a physician nor savoir.
#22 Dont make a big deal out of them using an assistive device, like a cane.
#23 Remember that life is not always like the drug commercials.
#24 It's about your presence, not your presents.
#25 Just show up! Phone calls are nice but visiting is better.
#26 Don't talk about their illness in front of their children.
#27 Help clean their house before out-of-town guests arrive.
#28 When they cry, just sit with them.